What’s in a hug? Can you give them freely? How often do we listen? Careful, focused, thoughtful listening. Probably not as often as we think. How often do we fail to relate to others and jump to inaccurate conclusions about their character or lifestyle? How quick are we to judge? How often does one comment, made without a passing thought, devastate someone’s day? Too often.
Here’s some food for thought: Why not take a break to actually listen, not jump to conclusions, and uplift, rather than upset someone’s day. Working to achieve that goal is the first step towards a solution.
To begin we have to stop making excuses. For example, statements like “it was their fault,” “how should I know” or “I love you…BUT” all give us the ability to pass blame while excusing our own actions. Let’s take the time to turn reaction into reflection.
Similarly it is important to remember that we are all one crucial link in a giant chain. Whether it be with interpersonal relationships or the cosmic scheme of the universe, when we break the ties that bind, they are difficult to mend while weakening the entire system.
Finally, take a moment to inspire, uplift and evaluate yourself. Although helping others is important, to do so we must help ourselves. Don’t be afraid to take a moment and relish in those beautiful snowy peaks, watch your favorite show or, yes, find a bear hug!